I'm going to hell for this one
I am not sure why, but I have been thinking about a cousin of mine lately.
She's 28, and was engaged to be married. Then a month later, she got pregnant. Fiance was very cool about it, and they were married in city court that afternoon. Then they had a big "blessing" ceremony about six months later.
Pregnancy has not agreed with cousin. She became violently sick every day. After four hospitalizations, she had a PIC line put in to provide fluids and nutrients to baby.
She also has heart problems (sound familar?) that has not been officially diagnosed as anything. The last I heard, it was probably a-fib.
After losing 35 pounds before the PIC line, she has since gained 50 pounds of mostly fluid from the PIC line.
Baby finally started to grow after getting the PIC line. She also found out it's a girl, and is naming her after my grandmother.
But gaining 50 pounds of fluid can't be good on cousin's heart, lungs, kidneys, etc. She's kinda going day by day walking a fine line between maximum benefit of keeping the kid in and her health.
She's not due until early December. They don't expect she'll make it that far. They're not even considering inducing and will do a c-section on her.
Editorial note: I have never had a maternal bone in my body. I don't expect I'll ever have kids of my own. I have several reasons I'm sure I've vented about in the past.
Hearing all this makes me wonder why she's going through this. First of all, this was an unplanned pregnancy. Second, her body obviously can't tolerate pregnancy without lots of medical intervention. So why is she putting herself through all this?
She was raised Catholic like my sister and I. But getting knocked up before the wedding, she probably is as religious as we are. I question why she just didn't terminate the pregnancy when she was having trouble from the beginning.
Granted, hindsight is 20/20. She probably didn't imagine how bad the problems would be. And now she's at the point of no return. I haven't even asked if she'll have a tubal ligation after the c-section, because I doubt she'll find a doctor that would say she could get pregnant again and have an uncomplicated pregnancy.
After thinking about it before falling asleep last night, I said a little prayer for this baby girl. I hope that once she finally makes her entrance to the world, she can grow and thrive. She didn't ask for such a harsh beginning of life, but I hope it doesn't have long term consquences for her.
She's 28, and was engaged to be married. Then a month later, she got pregnant. Fiance was very cool about it, and they were married in city court that afternoon. Then they had a big "blessing" ceremony about six months later.
Pregnancy has not agreed with cousin. She became violently sick every day. After four hospitalizations, she had a PIC line put in to provide fluids and nutrients to baby.
She also has heart problems (sound familar?) that has not been officially diagnosed as anything. The last I heard, it was probably a-fib.
After losing 35 pounds before the PIC line, she has since gained 50 pounds of mostly fluid from the PIC line.
Baby finally started to grow after getting the PIC line. She also found out it's a girl, and is naming her after my grandmother.
But gaining 50 pounds of fluid can't be good on cousin's heart, lungs, kidneys, etc. She's kinda going day by day walking a fine line between maximum benefit of keeping the kid in and her health.
She's not due until early December. They don't expect she'll make it that far. They're not even considering inducing and will do a c-section on her.
Editorial note: I have never had a maternal bone in my body. I don't expect I'll ever have kids of my own. I have several reasons I'm sure I've vented about in the past.
Hearing all this makes me wonder why she's going through this. First of all, this was an unplanned pregnancy. Second, her body obviously can't tolerate pregnancy without lots of medical intervention. So why is she putting herself through all this?
She was raised Catholic like my sister and I. But getting knocked up before the wedding, she probably is as religious as we are. I question why she just didn't terminate the pregnancy when she was having trouble from the beginning.
Granted, hindsight is 20/20. She probably didn't imagine how bad the problems would be. And now she's at the point of no return. I haven't even asked if she'll have a tubal ligation after the c-section, because I doubt she'll find a doctor that would say she could get pregnant again and have an uncomplicated pregnancy.
After thinking about it before falling asleep last night, I said a little prayer for this baby girl. I hope that once she finally makes her entrance to the world, she can grow and thrive. She didn't ask for such a harsh beginning of life, but I hope it doesn't have long term consquences for her.
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posted by Jenn @ 09:00
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